Today I was talking to someone very close to me who had to follow through with a very difficult decision. This conversation has been bothering me all day, because I continue to see and hear this in a lot of relationships. When do men stop selling women dreams? When do they stop telling us what they think we want to hear just to get with us? If a female tells you from the beginning of meeting each other what it is she wants and what it is she will not tolerate. That does not mean agree with what she said, nor does it mean you tell her all these things you are willing to do for her so that she doesn't have to go through any of that again.
When you do this you take away our options to deal with the real you from the beginning of the relationship.
It is not fair to wait a year into the relationship when you both are in love and it makes it harder to leave.
Now you're looking at her crazy when she asks you what the hell do you have an attitude for you're not doing anything? How do you as a man do that? How do you watch your woman stress out about money, how the bills are going to get paid? hell how the rent will be paid? Now she has given you every oppurtunity to regroup and try to help, now you both sit down and discuss the options, you map out a plan and agree that if you can not come up with what she needs to get the both of you caught up that you would be a man and leave the following month. Now she has also told you that she can't promise you her feelings will change back because now she is looking at you differently. You are not the man she met a year ago yes you sold her a dream but she has stayed consistant with what she told you, and you agree that she has. So now you're mad and you want to argue, she doesn't want to come home from work until she thinks you're asleep. What is wrong with that picture? Now this young lady is going to be stuck with trying to pay off all the back bills when you are gone. But where ever you go you will have to pay there also, so why do you treat your woman like crap.
So men please stop selling us the dream of a good man if you're not, or the dream of a perfect relationship when you can't? If you smoke, drink or do all the things we don't like, just be honest and let us decide if we want to pursue a relationship with you. Just know that if you don't have the top 3 things on every womans list job, car, your own place. You at least have to have a job!!!!!! So stop thinking we're judging you or trying to change you, that is not what we want. We want to sinply be able to still repect you 6 months or 1 year into the relationship.
This was not written to man bash or to generalize all men but you dream sellers no who you are.. This can also be applied to women too, but you see it more in men. If men and women would just stop telling each other what we think they want to hear I think realtionships now would be much better.... Just tell the truth....
