HOMOPHOBIA......

Where do I start? At the bginning I guess; well last night I had a very disturbing conversation with a man whom I thought had a little bit of sense.
The conversation started out like this... "I can't wait til the weekend so I can check out Steve Harvey's movie Think Like A Man" him; " Don't no woman need to think like a man, she needs to think like a woman". me.. " you don't get what the purpose of the movie is, he's not telling us to think like you, he's showing you how to basically understand the male mind when seeking out or trying to maintain a relationship". Well he didn't want to here that and it kind of pissed me off, because the conversation went from that to people idolizing celebrities; to some of our most celebrated black actors being gay... Now I'm heated because this convo started when I mentioned that there is a book out about The Rise of Tyler Perry". What did I say that for because now Tyler is everything gay under the sun but the child of god because he does the Madea character. Well you know me because my question to him now is " so what does make Martin portraying big momma, shanay nay and Martins mother on his show? Is he gay? no answer for that, but he did make it very clear that our award winning actors like Denzel, Will Smith and various other actors had to sleep on the directors couch and that's how they got their roles. Never mind that both of these men are just simply great actors. He didn't want to hear that either so now I'm really upset because this conversation just turned ignorant, my point to him was no one says anything about white actors having to sleep with men to get the roles they earned, and I asked him " so what are you saying about the young actors who are coming up now, did the sleep with men to get the roles they deserved? Now mind you this is coming from another black man running down his own kind. No one says anything about white actors dressing up like women, or having to sleep with men. Then he started calling them faggots which really pisses me off, I could not believe that I was actually havimg this kind of conversation with someone I have known all my life. So my question to him was "so this is how you feel?" his response was this is no reflection to the gay men in his family, so I ask you what is the difference between you calling your family members faggots and calling celebrities the same thing. (MONEY). I had to tell this man to stop saying that and that I was done discussing it. Needless to say he was upset, but ask me if I cared. NOT!!!! Like I told him when you feel that strongly negatively about that I think your HOMOPHOBIC... you can't be that secure with your own manhood to feel that way. A person's sexuality is just that, their sexuality they are not asking you to like or accept it but you do need to respect their choice to love who they want and do what they want.....
                                                                Til next time I'll talk with soon........
                                          

What do we really want?

I was having a conversation with my daughter yesterday about relationships. And what I've come to realize is that sometimes we don't know what we want in a reationship. For as much as I would love to be in a committed relationship it would not be for the same reason most people are looking for. I am not looking to start a family my kids are grown, I have everything I want right now, as far as sex goes it is not that important to me anymore. I've had great sex over the years so that would not be the most important thing to me.
What I am looking for is someone who likes to do the things I enjoy doing, someone to spend quality time with. So what is wrong with me? I don't want to live with anyone and I enjoy my own company and peace of so much. I think I really do have OCD because it is little things that bother me when there is someone in my space, like sitting a glass on my dresser without a coaster, or trying to make me do something that I contiually tell you I don't do. Maybe that is what's meant by set in your ways.... I talk to 3 people on a daily basis and they are so very different. So I ask myself do I want to settle down with either of them? which one will fill the requirements that I am looking for? Who can I see myself with? and which one will be okay with being in a relationship without living to together? Am I wrong for feeling this way? At 52 I want the attention to be on me without being obssessive and needy, I am not an emotionally or physically needy person, and I don't like emotionally or needy men.... Can we really be happy in a committed relationship without being married or living together....
                                                  Will chat with you soon