MEN DON'T HEAL THEY HOLD............

          I heard this on Micheal Baisdens show and it was a topic we all know to well. The art of forgiveness, why do men find it hard to forgive their wives or girlfriends when they cheat? I'm not really sure i beleive it is a matter of "somebody been in my sh.t" they start to feel like you have found some one better. Well on this particular show one man called in and commented that he could frogive a sexual affair but when women emotionally cheat he said he would have to let it go. How do you compete with emotional infidelity? The feelings are already gone, but for most women that is where the sexual affair start with the emotional affair. When women step out on a relationship it is usually because something is missing at home emotionally, he stopped saying i love you, you stop holding hands or you simply just start taking each other for granted.
         While most relationship can be worked out if both parties are willing to work on it and learn to forgive.
This also goes for women too, because we find it hard to forgive on any level sexual emotional it doesn't matter, because for me my mind goes to i know what he does with me so is he doing the same thing with her. That is the only thought you need, because from that point on you will always look at him and think "where have your lips been? don't kiss me". I speak from experience as someone who didn't feel the love at one time and it really did start with a friend who started listening to my problems and then as the cliche goes one thing led to another. Which relationship it was will go to my grave with me, and i have been on the other side too, had to let go of a relationship due to finding out about and confirming cheating. I may be wrong but cheating is something i can not live with, not now and not anymore. Living right these days and it feels good. Telling your partner what you need emotionally and sexually which ever area is suffering will save your relationship. Trust me they want to know, so men tell your woman you love her, call her during the day just to see how she's doing, send her flowers just because, start a date night, take walks go back to the courting days of your relationship. And women accept and receive these things that some of your men are trying to do for you, don't shut them down, FYI  this works for both parties........ WISHING EVERYBODY IN TROUBLED RELATIONSHIPS THE BEST, AND FOR THOSE THAT ARE MAKING IT WORK I'M HAPPY FOR YOU.Maybe you can share some of your tips to a happy and long lasting relationship.........

COMMUNIATION..... THE KEY TO A GOOD RELATIONSHIP

         Communication! Yes it is the most important part of a relationship, especially a new relationship. Why do I speak on this because it almost ended one that i'm in now. A misunderstanding and anger on both of our parts. We talked because i decided that we should talk in person and not through texting or on facebook. And yes facebook can ruin a relationship because we as humans will take something we read to the next level and it may not even be about us. That is what I did, a simple misunderstanding turned into a fight and on his part not answering a phone automatically went to she must be doing something. So before anything could be said that we could not take back, we talked and like adults and worked it out. I don't know how long this will last but for now this realationship is what we both want. So to everyone in new relationships or a relationship that you've been in for awhile. Remember this don't ever stop talking to each other, learn how to talk to each other and not at each other. Silence will kill your relationship and so will jumping to conclusion. Texting and facebook is not the place for relationship problems.... Give your mate a hug and show them some TLC tonight, you will be surprised how far that will go in making up.... Welcome all comments and stories as always. In the mean time enjoy my writings........

BLACK CLOUDS

       Well today i'm feeling a little down and, feeling like there is definitely a black cloud hanging over my head. Just when you think everything is going good here comes bad luck to knock you back 5 steps. I can not not believe what has been happening to me the past couple of days. How do you get stopped by the police twice on the same street in the same city, just minutes away from home. So you know now i 'm feeling like my car is jinxed. It is time to get another one and as soon as i get my license straightened out i will be buying another car. I don't feel comfortable with it anymore. So for now all i can do is pray on it and put it in gods hands, it has always helped me through some of the worst moments in my life. Lord i know everything we go through is for a reason, but what is this? I always try to do the right thing, and i try to live right. Give me the strength to get through this..... I am hoping this works it self out soon.......