This post is dedicated to anyone who is finding themselves newly single or who have been single for a while and find themselves having a hard time with this thing called dating.
As everyone knows I am a woman over 50 and I have always said that I don't like dating at all. I don't remember it being this hard, but then when I look back on my past relationships I never really did the dating thing. All of my relationships were friendships that evolved into a relationship. So I am having a difficult time with this. I was a woman who always had a boyfriend, my last real relationship was 8 yrs ago, and the last time I tried to get involved with someone was 3 yrs ago when he showed me something that made me rethink and end that quickly, I was not ready or willing to deal with a messy man, full of lies and deceit. So I took a year off from dating and sex and focus on me. I kept myself busy with work and my family. Exactly 1 year and 3 months later I decided to throw my hat back into the ring of dating. Sure I met a few men who were ok at first but then it turned out they only wanted one thing and that's all it was about. I am not a female youcan call in the middle of the night for a booty call, nor am I the one you can call after several months of not hearing from you and you tell me that you miss me and you want to see me, no it's not happening; especially when you can't even tell me what you miss about me.
So here I am at 52 single and loving it, yes I would love to be in a committed relationship, dating I don't know how to do that and I haven't yet met anyone who really tries to date the way they did in the old days. I ask myself all the time where are the old fashioned men with old school values? I met 2 very nice men one 10 years younger and one 10 years older, and there is someone from from my past trying to get back whom I've known for over 30 years. You may ask what is the problem? you are dating 3 men, well I talk to 2 of them on a regular basis and the other one only wants to see me to have sex, I don't want to have sex every time I see the man I'm suppose to be dating, so for me that is a turn off, and this person lives here, the other 2 live in Texas and Maryland, and only one of them has went out of his way to make me happy and let me know that he wants to be with me, he was the only one of the 3 to send me something for my birthday and the man who sent me 2 dozen roses for Mothers Day, he sends spontaneous messages in the middle of the night when he wakes up, and he always seem to know when I need to smile and he calls. He is everything I need in a man and yes he is older and a southern man. I am trying not to block what I think god has given me because I will be the one to start looking for all the negative and let go of someone who may be for me.
Yes I have had great loves and 2 true loves, o when I get in my moods and I start feeling like I need some TLC I think back on my life with a smile in my heart and I look at my future with a smile because I have met someone who does that for me and I am looking forward to this summer when we will be able to spend some time togther here and in his hometown. The quality of time spent is what is important to me. I am 52 and I haven't given up on love and I never say that I am lonely, I just use the phrase I NEED SOME TLC.
So ladies of OS this story is dedicated to you, yes god will place someone in your life, you just have to open your heart to love and get out of your own way. Take it from someone who used to keep a wall up because I thought I had lost my sexy, I'm ok with me and I am still a work in progress. What I do know is that if this does not work out I can look back and know that I have had a good life.
Stay strong ladies and keep the faith
Vanessa
