It starts with a smile, a simple glance and great conversation just that easy. It is so easy to get attached to someone when there is a need, maybe they are are having marital problems and need someone to talk to, or it could be that you are that female who can talk about anything from sports to cars. Most men find that attractive in a woman and it is especially a turn on when you hold all these qualities and the wife or girlfriend doesn't. Now they have an outside buddy, so you start making flirty remarks at each other that you try to play off as just fun, when in actuality you really want to do each other.
Now you ask how does the sex come into play? Picture this it's New Years Eve your're alone for the holiday and he's at work, well you decide to surprise him and yes it is a pleasant surprise since he doesn't get off until midnight. Well midnight comes and the two of you share a New Years kiss. Now like I always say it starts with a kiss and yes the kiss is nice. Neither of you have regrets you both go to your own homes. The next day you talk and carry on as usual not drawing attention to yourself.
Anyway days and weeks go by and you finally hook up after meeting for lunch and shooting pool and just hanging out, now you have the most passionate sex ever, there is absolutely no guilt felt, you make time for each other, he brings you gifts, he makes time for you even on holidays. You go along with it with no thought for the wife because this is his problem as long as it doesn't come back to you. This relationship continues for about 2 years and it just keeps getting better. Now you both have real feelings for each other and you can't imagine being with anyone else. This relationship is the best you think you've had, pump your breaks this man belongs to someone else, although he gives you everything you want and more the most important things are missing. Someone to hold at night when you roll over and the other side of the bed is empty.
OK you have to make a decision or you know one of you has to. You decide to end the relationship because in the long run you will always be the one who gets hurt. So you move with your life to another relationship and for the most part it's going well also. Until he walks into your life temptation again. The cycle starts over what is wrong with you? nothing at all, you are only doing what men have been doing since the beginning of time, we just do it better. Although you have never been caught and have always managed to hold down your own relationship, it is the thrill of mystery and someone new and exciting and the flirting that kept you in the game. You love your man sure but you are sexually attracted to someone else.
So now that you are older you try to share with other women how easy it is for their men to stray, it really doesn't take much. You have changed your ways and now you have been blessed with a good and understanding man who does not judge your past and excepts you unconditionally.
Now this is not to say that all men/women cheat but you have to open your eyes and look at the signs because they're there, and continue to keep the spice going in your own relationships and there will never be room for someone to swoop in and get your man or woman..
No names were mentioned to protect the innocent....
TIL NEXT TIME PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR MATE..
It's as simple as that: how it starts is simple & how to keep it from starting is simple.
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